Wow, I'm suprised how my problem expanded to such disscussion ;) But one thing at a time.
As someone noticed, cost is the main thing that I had in mind with replacing the shock. I like to ride a little bit faster & harder (rear tire completly closed) & OEM shock was fine for me before it had leaked. I think it leaked because it was just old. After the leak i simply wanted to get a fast replacement with the lowest cost possible, as there is like a month or two riding left before the weather gets shitty again... So: found the shock, ordered it and when it came i just realised that it's for 6th gen ABS. But nevertheless, it looked almost good as new so i thought it would be the best idea to fit it anyway and to get the adjuster alone any time soon(i thought there is no problem of getting it apart the shock).
That being said, when i called the seller (which is a fkin mooron BTW) to tell him that there is no preload adjuster, he told me that if i already mounted the shock on the bike, he cant take it back. You can say it's my mistake that i admitted to fitting it but it didnt matter to me anyway cause i was still going to stay with the 6th one. I am sure that if i wanted a refund or so, i still could get it using the buyers protection but i just didnt see the point in that as i would be left with no shock at all. Also, the 6th gen OEM shocks are just in better shape than the 5th ones, probably just because they are newer.
Second thing, the difference in size is about 8mm. I placed a 7mm washer on the VTEC shock and it fits smoothly. Also, yesterday i've found the preload adjuster from ST1300 (which is the same as in the VTEC) online for about 20$ (80 PLN), and the shock was about 30$ (120 PLN) - so as a conclusion: for 50$ i got a nice, OEM & almost new looking shock which completly satsifies my needs in terms of riding solo, with a pillion, or more sporty, and as a plus to all of it, i will be able to change the preload settings with just turning a knob.
Earlier i didint even have the Honda wrench to set the OEM 5th gen shock preload, and i suppose the shock would just break down if i tried to set it (it was already in not so great shape before the leak...) . So a VTEC adjusted shock for a 50$? I suppose that it came to pretty good end, comparing it to for example an YSS shock which is for about 420$ (1600 PLN).
As i tested how the shock is doing with or without the washer, i would definetly say that without the washer it was terrible, the bike didnt feel right, the turns were hard to make and riding was just not enjoyable. When i added the 7mm washer, it changed the whole game! It works smoothly and even a lot better then the OEM shock before the leakage. It behaves as its was on rails, im truly suprised that the newer shock can change so much. Im very satisfied with the change and recommend to those who dont need a super sporty shock or the 954/929 shock and look for just a low cost replacement.
PS. To get the things a little bit intresting and to show You why i just go with all the trouble to change an OEM shock with an OEM shock is mainly this: the price of the YSS/Ohlins/Pensake shock is basically the minimum wage (1600 PLN = 420$) for a month of work in Poland (and like 60-70% of population still works for that kind of money ). So when You compare it further, it's like an 1/8 price of the whole bike too...